DREAMS OF A LOST MOONCHILD

But dude this is ridiculous.

So where I am from, unschooling is illegal. And homeschooling is monitored, I know this because I had to homeschool one of my kids for a while. Because in Denmark it’s illegal to not be enrolled in some form of education when you are at the age where you should be in school.

So I had to sit down and get familiar with the curriculum for the grade he was in, and make a year plan. This I had to send in to the state agency which handles education, and when/if they accept your curriculum plan, you are assigned a handler at the local public school. You then deliver your curriculum to the school, and they will call you in once every 3 months to 6 months, and you have to have proof of you following the plan you made. You have to give a list of books you’re gonna buy too. I got a tip to write a diary which I did in an online free blog, this was easier than paper copies since the school could just look there at my daily documentation. And at those meetings, your kid will be tested assuring they truly know what you claim they do.

If you do not meet these requirements – you lose the right to homeschool, that simple. This might seem like a lot, and it is. But it’s there to ensure that homeschooled kids gets the same base education as were they in school. Also your kid has the right to participate in ‘shop’ classes, such as home-aid, and wood shop, but that is not mandatory.

The homeschooled kids i know, are smart as all hell. So I won’t say a single bad word about it – but it does require a fuck ton of you as a parent, and also you need to be extra on point about socializing your kid. I recall there were several groups of homeschoolers who arranged outings to museums and stuff, so we’d all go together, that was pretty smart, man. And I only homeschooled for 6 months, and I am never, ever fucking doing that again! (since my kids are not in school anymore, there is no need – they grown.)

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But unschooling… dude

I have a degree in Pedagogy, and I am telling you – you are harming your child, stunting their intellect, and desire to learn.

Don’t believe me? well let’s just take something like Rudolph Steiner schools, they were rampant here in the 80ies and 90ies – and one of my oldest friends Nina, her younger siblings went to such a school. And when they applied to college they had to do a fuckton of tests, unlike kids from other schools – because the colleges will not enroll them if they are behind, and the expectation is that they are.

So unschooling, dude do you think your kids can enroll in college? or do they still write phonetic, and draw rabbits? Of course they do!

There is the Gestalt therapist who I loooooved, and went to many courses by, and bought his books. Sadly he passed, but his word stands. Do not give your child adult choices.

He had this case in one of his books about a mom and a kid, and the mom asks the kid ‘where do you want to go on summer holliday this year?’ and the kid is having fun right? all his friends is there to play with, and so he says ‘I want to stay home and play with my friends’ – and so they do. But what happens is the friends all go away on holliday and the kid is left with no one to play with, and so goes to his mom and asks her when they are leaving for summer holliday, and she tells him they are not, and he chose this.

He can’t chose that! come the fuck on. That is a adult decision. Because kids are in the now – cognitively they can’t calculate the outcome of such ‘big decisions’, because they can’t imagine other solutions, or that things change.

This is my major gripe with unschooling, so the kid don’t feel like learning, cool. What the fuck man, what about you? the parents! Are you challenged or something? do you really think they can pursue any education with absolutely no skills? And I know the parents argue with ‘they got skills’ – sure they do, but not the one needed for fucking college.

So all in all, you are setting your kid up for failure, and they will have to catch up on all that they should have learned, as teenagers or adults – unless they are happy with doing shit jobs like apple picking, or whatever. Why would you do this to them?

The other side of the pond is just as bad, I mean you see asian kids falling asleep over their homework, and they have no childhood – that is also destructive. But there is a fucking reason that kids ought to go to school and learn the basics for shit – so they have a foundation to build on, that’s why.

And yes it is neglect – you are fucking neglecting your kids needs. Because they NEED basic knowledge, they NEED guidance, and they NEED to have a future – they won’t be 6 forever you know. Do you think it’s just as cute when they are 30 and can’t get a job and you have to support them? because you can you know, you got BASIC EDUCATION!

It pissed me off to find a list of countries that are ‘unschooling friendly’ what the actual fuck man… God, how i wish it was rage bait, but I know it’s not.

But you people should have taken your kids off you, that simple – because you are clearly not able to provide the basic care, or see what your child needs. You see what YOU need. And that is called mentalizing, people – learn it. There is a difference between you and your child, you are two different individuals. And to force your kid into something that is this destructive and stigmatizing for them as adults, is just flat out wrong.